Help For Those Who Still Love Their Ex

July 14, 2009 by Andyl Hannerl  
Filed under Dating

Are you still in love after the breakup? Are you looking for help to move on or to get your ex back?

If you want a help to move on, then the breakup must have been rough and might have ended badly. If the scenario was filled with high emotion, then it would really take a lot of time to get over the relationship.

Taking care of yourself is always key after any emotional turmoil, but in this case where you’ve been tossed around and you still feel that you love your ex, it is even more key. Don’t give yourself a hard time for any decisions you made that you now feel in retrospect were wrong decisions. You did the best you could with what you had, so relax and allow yourself to be human.

Make sure that the break up help you need is to look after you and not to look after your ex and what they might be going through. You have left them behind and though you still have strong feelings for them, they are no longer your responsibility.

If you have the urge to talk to a professional see one as soon as you can. Therapists can put the situation in a new perspective. When you are in an emotional stress, you will surely feel quite vulnerable and these therapists will help you gain back your self esteem.

When the breakup was not that rough and can be considered as hanging, you may still feel something for your ex. When this happens, you may need to think over for a few days and strategize on your plans to get things started. You can even do the suggestions above at this point.

So follow what’s already been outlined: taking care of yourself first and foremost, talk to a professional if you feel you have to and forget about your ex for a few weeks while you recover self-esteem and direction.

Once you’re through the initial re-grouping stage, you then make contact with your ex. Ask for a meeting somewhere neutral. When you meet your ex, calmly and without being overly emotional explain that you still have feelings for them. Explain that you’ve had time to think and you’d like another chance to make your relationship work. Take the time to listen to your ex and hear their point of view, you don’t necessarily have to agree with them, but you need to listen.

You then give them time to think and leave to wait for them to call you. Truth is it could go either way. Using this break up help guarantees nothing. Just know this, you have given it your best shot so there is no need to spend endless hours beating yourself up.

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How To Win Your Love Back Forever

July 13, 2009 by Andyl Hannerl  
Filed under Dating

If you’re looking around and is wondering how to win your love back, then it is without a doubt that you found yourself in a situation where you’re still in love with your ex, but your ex has already walked out of the relationship.

Your first step to win your love back is to take some time out and get your head together. It would be a big mistake to try and win back your ex within days of the breakup, particularly if it has been a messy breakup. So make sure that you take some time to sort yourself out.

Your first thought should always be to look after yourself. That means avoiding your ex and not making contact with them at all. It’s not going to be easy to go from being in a relationship and then not to make any contact with your ex, but it is vital that you do so.

Contacting your ex makes you weak and puts you in a negative and vulnerable position. Particularly if your ex has asked to be left alone. Constantly calling or trying to see your ex means that you become less appealing to them. Exes hate needy and desperate people, so back off if you want to win your love back.

Instead, work at sorting yourself our. As you focus on yourself make sure that you’re not spending all your time on your own. It is very easy to find that when the love of your life walks out on you that you end up filling that space doing nothing but thinking about them. This is a surefire way to find yourself depressed and low and recovering from depression brings a whole other level of problems that you don’t need.

Get yourself out and reconnect with your family and friends. Meet new people, make available and have fun. It’s not going to be simple, but if it’s the passage forward to figuring out how to win your love back, then you have to do it.

As you slowly get back on the reality after the blow of the breakup, you should then begin to think about any role that you might have made that led to the breakup.

It is very easy to reprehend your ex for the things that has done wrong, but always remember, it takes two to make a relationship work and two to break it. So in this time that you are away from your ex, work on a solution to figure out how to get back with your ex. Make sure that you are honest with yourself and claim that you played a part that caused the breakup.

Did you make a mistake that caused the break down of the relationship? If you did, then you need to figure out how you’re going to rectify the behavior that led to the mistake and the eventual breakup.

Though some of the outlined steps might seem counter-intuitive, if you’re serious about figuring out how to win your love back, they are steps that you must take.

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Winning Back your Ex Boyfriend by Dating Someone Else

July 13, 2009 by Andyl Hannerl  
Filed under Dating

Try dating someone else and you’ll win your ex boyfriend back!! This may sound absolutely wrong, absurd and may seem counter-intuitive. You’re flat out not going to do it! Right?

Well what if it’s the right thing to do and by doing it you move yourself closer to getting back together with your ex boyfriend? Would you do it then?

Let me tell you this. When you’ve been dumped by someone you are so in love with, instinctively your first thought is to chase after them, beg and plead them to take you back and give you another chance. It’s pretty much a mad panic on your part to get right back into the relationship before your ex boyfriend meets someone else and totally forget about you.

Well pretty much you need to understand that your ex boyfriend is not going to forget about you just because the two of you broke up. Plus if he still has strong feelings for you, just because he’s dating someone else it doesn’t mean there’s no way back for the two of you. So there’s really no need to panic!

To win back your ex boyfriend have faith that taking some time out is the right thing to do in this situation and you should do that. Be sure that during this time away from your ex boyfriend, you will not contact him in anyway. Just let him get on with whatever he’s doing and you should do the same.

Once you accept that you’re not going to be contacting your ex boyfriend, it’s time to put on your best outfit, reconnect with your friends and get out and have some fun. Not only will this keep you busy and stop the temptation to call your ex, but it will also boost your confidence no end.

If you will meet someone whom you feel you’d like to go out with, don’t hesitate and let your desire to win back ex boyfriend stop you. Remember, you’re no longer in a relationship with your ex boyfriend. You’ve broken up and you’re a free agent now. If you think you’re emotionally ready to have some fun, go ahead and have some!

What you should do first and foremost though, is to make it clear to whoever you decide to date that you’re not interested in anything heavy or full on, you just want to have some fun.

Clear it to yourself that what you’re doing is not making your ex boyfriend jealous but rather it is only about keeping your spirits high and helping you to cope up with the the situation you have with your ex boyfriend.

You never know, you might enjoy this new guy so much that you decide that getting back with your ex boyfriend is not what you want to do after all. Equally using this time apart to explore how you feel, can be a real way to win back ex boyfriend.

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