Nothing beats sex for a true feeling of mind and body intimacy. And as wonderful as sex is, there’s also something pretty special about kissing. It communicates not only passion but the emotion as well. For most it’s an integral part of expressing their physical romance.

That expression starts to pale when your partner kisses badly. Unfortunately, kissing is one of those wait and see things; hard to predict. After all, no one puts “great person, bad kisser” on their internet dating profile.

But just because somebody you date is a not-so-great kisser doesn’t mean you have to dump them there and then. Some people have simply never learned how to do it properly. Met somebody wonderful on an internet dating site and like everything about them but their lip-lock? Read of for tips on helping your partner improve his or her technique… without hurting anybody’s feelings.

What They’re Doing Wrong

Most bad kissers make the same mistakes. The most common by far is too much tongue. Blame the movies they’ve watched or the friends they’ve talked to. Kissing someone like this is doing battle with your tongues; full force. But let’s face it; having someone stick their tongue down your throat is never sexy.

What To Do

If the person you’re kissing is somebody you’re not interested in going any further with, you may be doing them a favor by pointing out any problems with their technique. But if you like him or her, the best thing is to avoid mentioning it. Even if you try to talk about it gently, there’s really no way to avoid embarrassing the heck out of your date. Fortunately, it’s easy to help somebody improve their kissing technique by simply leading them– you don’t have to say a word.

Step one in teaching someone to kiss better is to get them interested in the kiss itself. When there’s no doubt that they’re into the kiss (and you), pull back just a bit to slow the pace. Don’t pull back so much that they’ll feel rejected, but just enough to slow things down a bit. This will give you the chance to break up the tedium and initiate some new elements.

Get Luke to put away his light saber. If your kissing partner seems to really want to play tongue battle, you need to disengage. Change the focus to the lips and change the pace and style of the kiss.

Once the tongue truce has been established, it’s time to introduce your smooching other half to more kissing options. Try alternating between kissing the top and bottom lips. Sucking the bottom lip lightly is also a pleaser as is gently using your teeth. Hopefully your date will enjoy the new sensations and it will spark some creativity of their own.

When your partner is into the swing of trying these new techniques, fall back and let them take control. Given a bit of time, they should discover the pleasure that comes from these new techniques and confidence in their new kissing ability. All without knowing that you had a hand in it (so to speak).

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